Guilt

Psychotic 23 May 2010 | 0 Comments

People feel guilty for many reasons:

  1. You see somebody that needs help but you don’t give it
  2. You act without thinking and you do something that hurts another
  3. You do something that you believe to be “wrong”

Guilt can turn into regret when you allow time to pass.  Regret can hang on and bother you for your entire life if you let it.
I rarely feel guilty and I think this is a healthy thing.  This is how I deal with the previous examples:

  1. This requires bravery (which I have).  I suppose this could create an entire new discussion about bravery and how to be brave – for me, the key factors to bravery are reminding yourself that life is short so get out there and act, and self confidence helps me to have confidence that my decisions are usually good so I can act on them. So, when I see somebody that needs help I give it.  Keep in mind that if there are people around you that seem to continuously need help and you feel guilt for not continuously giving them help, I would suggest that you might not have analyzed it completely.  As Glenn wrote before (I Don’t Know Anything) the commercials for the starving children in Africa are continuous, but I have no guilt for not sending them all my money.
  2. I can think of 2 different ways I deal with this one.  The first is that I rarely do something without thinking.  I am a very calm person and this allows me to rarely act impulsively.  The second is that if I do hurt somebody unintentionally, I use the bravery from point 1 to go to the person and apologize – and if this isn’t possible, I let it go.  I don’t let regrets haunt me because “life is short”, so I just “let it go”.
  3. I have found that many things I believed to be “wrong” at one point in my life, that I found myself doing, I now don’t believe to be “wrong” at all.  So I suggest to you that you re-evaluate those categories of “right and wrong” if you find yourself doing something “wrong” often and you might realize that it isn’t so wrong after all.  A common example is sexual actions, whether it’s as simple as masturbating or lusting after another person, as a swinger my partner and I both have sex with other people and enjoy every minute of it, without guilt. Sexual taboos are almost entirely old-fashioned and were created in fear.
People feel guilty for many reasons:
1. you see somebody that needs help but you don’t give it
2. you act without thinking and you do something that hurts another
3. you do something that you believe to be “wrong”

Guilt can turn into regret when you allow time to pass…regret can hang on and bother you for

your entire life if you let it.
I rarely feel guilty and I think this is a healthy thing.  This is how I deal with the previous

examples:

1.  This requires bravery (which I have).  I suppose this could create an entire new discussion

about bravery and how to be brave – for me, the key factors to bravery are reminding yourself

that life is short so get out there and act and self confidence helps me to have confidence

that my decisions are usually good so I can act on them. So, when I see somebody that needs

help I give it.  Keep in mind that if there are people around you that seem to continuously

need help and you feel guilt for not continuously giving them help, I would suggest that you

might not have analyzed it completely.  As I’ve written before ***,  the commercials for the

starving children in Africa are continuous, but I have no guilt for not sending them all my

money.

2.  I can think of 2 different ways I deal with this one.  The first is that I rarely do

something without thinking.  I am a very calm person and this allows me to rarely act

impulsively.  The second is that if I do hurt somebody unintentionally, I use the bravery from

point 1 to go to the person and apologize – and if this isn’t possible, I let it go.  I don’t

let regrets haunt me because “life is short”, so I just “let it go”.

3.  I have found that many things I believed to be “wrong” at one point in my life, that I

found myself doing, I now don’t believe to be “wrong” at all.  So I suggest to you that you re

-evaluate those categories of “right and wrong” if you find yourself doing something “wrong”

often and you might realize that it isn’t so wrong after all.  A common example is sexual

actions, whether it’s as simple as masturbating or lusting after another person, as a swinger

my partner and I both have sex with other people and enjoy every minute of it, without guilt.

Sexual taboos are almost entirely old-fashioned and were created in fear.

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